TRUST THE PROCESS: Lessons from a Coder/Lover

It’s pretty much easy to fall and cringe at the sound of something new. I mean, no one really likes change especially when it means getting out of bed every morning to the reminder that, you made the choice and you have to live it through.

Truth be told, that’s largely how my mind processed the last month of 2021. And yes, I still find myself rethinking my choices.

I hate change and I’m definitely petrified by it.

As I write, I’m 864.2km away from home. That’s a distance coupled with the threatening issue of insecurity in my homeland. I’m a foreigner to the language here and the weather is harsh! I stick to my phone and my laptop screen as companions because, stepping out is such a fright.

In the past three days, I’ve craved for banana pancakes and honey (Period alert!), but I’ve been too unmotivated to get to the mart. Oh yeah, plus I don’t know where to get stuff here.

The point is, I hate this change.

However, during my compulsory three weeks training at the camp, I met a really cute guy. He’s cute (point established), fun to be with, a nerd and a bad boy with a conscience.

Hold up! I’ve lost my way to the point🤦‍♀️

So, moving on, this cute boy who happens to be a tech-bro sat me down and said a lot of things that translated as gibberish to me then. Largely because my eyes were on his lips (No, I wasn’t going for a kiss).

The one statement that stuck to my mind like rat glue to a rodent was, “Trust the Process”.

What does it mean to trust the process?

If you’re like me, an oversensitive young person who cares too much about everyone, you definitely got hurt in the last year. Someone or numerous people must have broken your heart. And here you are, reading my blog and wondering what your heartbreaks have to do with any of this.

But here’s the thing.

As much as I’ve been heartbroken in the past year, I’ve also learned that the choice, to leave someone or be left by someone; to move away from home; to change your job, is a step in the entire process. You’ll never see the end of the process if you don’t learn to trust the process itself.

The process refers to the choices you make. Little or grand. No matter how much it weighs, your choices demand that you see them through.

Like me, you’ve probably second-guessed your plans for the year and doubted every bit of progress you hope to make, but I’m encouraging you, see every bit of it through. It’s okay that you pause every now and then to breathe, but don’t give up on the way. Trust the choices you make and trust that they are just right for you.

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